Today I want to talk about permis­sion to ask when we are grow­ing up, we have been indoc­tri­nated with the idea of asking permis­sion to ask permis­sion. We must raise our hand in class to ask if we’re allowed to use the restroom. We are told at work that we must ask and stay in line and get permis­sion first before we do what­ever it is we want. It has to get approved by, you know, about 10 people and a bureau­cratic line. The issue comes in the indoc­tri­na­tion of having to ask permis­sion to ask for what we want and we ended up apply­ing that to every­thing in life. We as kids don’t make the distinc­tion of asking our parents permis­sion to do pretty much every­thing and then asking our teach­ers permis­sion to pretty much do anything at school that those are contex­tual. We start to apply that to every­thing we want in our life.

So as we grow up, as we start having our own desires, as we become our own agents of inde­pen­dence, we are still under that trained mind­set. We are still wait­ing for permis­sion to ask for what we want. When we start having our own busi­ness, a lot of people strug­gle being an entre­pre­neur because they just don’t have the train­ing. They don’t have the mind­set that creates a space in which they can just do what­ever they want. It is so free. It is so liber­at­ing that they are so used to being told what to do. They have no idea how to func­tion. It’s impor­tant to begin to look at how you are wait­ing for permis­sion to ask for what you want. What are the patterns in your own life that have caused you to wait until some­body else has bestowed upon you? Do you gracious permis­sion to ask to have the life that you want?

Start paying atten­tion to the thoughts in your head that say, Oh, I’m not allowed to do that. Oh, who am I to do that? Or I need to wait until so-and-so gives me the go. I need to wait until the system or the Mentor bestows upon me the grace that I need in order to start living the life I want to live. Oh, I need the certifi­cate that says I’m have permis­sion to do what I want to do. Remember, not all of these are neces­sary a bad things. However, when you’re an entre­pre­neur and when you’re an artist and when you are an adult that just wants to live life how they want to live it, these programs, systems of oper­at­ing, these neuropath­ways need to be looked at and quite often they need to be replaced with not just giving ourself permis­sion. It goes beyond that. It is about getting rid of the need for permis­sion alto­gether in order to ask for what we want. You don’t need permis­sion from anybody nor your­self in order to ask for what you want. You’re just asking. You don’t need any permis­sion to ask.