No doubt have you already uncov­ered some of your fears. You prob­a­bly have an entire list of them writ­ten down and tucked away from some semi­nar years ago. Perhaps you’ve even faced some of these fears and have gotten the courage to move past them. Or maybe you’re advanced and have used certain modal­i­ties to heal your­self.

That’s awesome.

This process is designed to bring some of the most insid­i­ous ones up. If you’re not afraid of anything, you’re either in denial or play­ing it way too small in life. There is no room for either here anymore.

Being on your purpose and fulfill­ing your vision absolutely requires you falling in love with your fears.

There is no way to grow a busi­ness, shine your light, or get your creations out into the world if you’re para­lyzed by fear.

Notice I didn’t say “if you’re afraid”.

It’s not about becom­ing fear­less and elim­i­nat­ing them one by one (I’ve tried that, actu­ally). To be fear­less and flaw­less is to not be human. To not feel fear is to also not feel courage.

So many of us who are into “personal devel­op­ment” get stuck with fear because instead of facing it and grow­ing from the dark­ness, we want to elim­i­nate the fear alto­gether with­out having to face it. I’ve tried it, and it only gets you so far before you just find another way to avoid life.

Avoiding fear is about avoid­ing life.

You can’t have one with­out the other. My goal here isn’t to make you bullet­proof and over­come life—it’s to help you be more human, more vibrantly alive, more real in order to pros­per and share your­self with other people.

Stop trying to over­come your own human­ity… this goes back to the idea that there’s some­thing wrong with you. That you’re broken because you have these fears of fail­ure, success, humil­i­a­tion, home­less­ness, divorce, infi­delity, poverty, afflu­ence, being attacked, being seen and vulner­a­ble, hear­ing the truth. That you’re afraid people will see your flaws…

But it’s these unique and univer­sal fears and flaws that make you and your life relat­able and inter­est­ing. Remember Day 4? Stop trying to be perfect!

Being a hero is not about elim­i­nat­ing these fears and becom­ing super­hu­man. It’s the jour­ney of follow­ing your heart, being presented with your shadow, pene­trat­ing it, letting it destroy you, inte­grat­ing it with your light, being reborn, and shar­ing what you discov­ered with the world. You trans­verse this cycle in the meta, macro, and micro aspects of your life.

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” ‑Jack Canfield

When you find fear, lean into it.

Do not run away, but rejoice! For you have found the door­way to another part of your­self filled with trea­sure. We think it’s a monster, but it’s actu­ally the best parts of ourselves.

It’s this that we’re ulti­mately afraid of—our divine perfec­tion, our beauty, our worthi­ness, our lovabil­ity, our sinlessness—that is so magnif­i­cent, we can’t bare to know that’s what we’ve been deny­ing ourselves this whole time.

“Our deep­est fear is not that we are inad­e­quate. Our deep­est fear is that we are power­ful beyond measure. It is our light, not our dark­ness that most fright­ens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be bril­liant, gorgeous, talented, and fabu­lous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your play­ing small does not serve the world.” ‑Marianne Williamson

When you face fear, you align with life. When you avoid fear, you align with death.


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