No doubt have you already uncovered some of your fears. You probably have an entire list of them written down and tucked away from some seminar years ago. Perhaps you’ve even faced some of these fears and have gotten the courage to move past them. Or maybe you’re advanced and have used certain modalities to heal yourself.
This process is designed to bring some of the most insidious ones up. If you’re not afraid of anything, you’re either in denial or playing it way too small in life. There is no room for either here anymore.
Being on your purpose and fulfilling your vision absolutely requires you falling in love with your fears.
There is no way to grow a business, shine your light, or get your creations out into the world if you’re paralyzed by fear.
Notice I didn’t say “if you’re afraid”.
It’s not about becoming fearless and eliminating them one by one (I’ve tried that, actually). To be fearless and flawless is to not be human. To not feel fear is to also not feel courage.
So many of us who are into “personal development” get stuck with fear because instead of facing it and growing from the darkness, we want to eliminate the fear altogether without having to face it. I’ve tried it, and it only gets you so far before you just find another way to avoid life.
Avoiding fear is about avoiding life.
You can’t have one without the other. My goal here isn’t to make you bulletproof and overcome life—it’s to help you be more human, more vibrantly alive, more real in order to prosper and share yourself with other people.
Stop trying to overcome your own humanity… this goes back to the idea that there’s something wrong with you. That you’re broken because you have these fears of failure, success, humiliation, homelessness, divorce, infidelity, poverty, affluence, being attacked, being seen and vulnerable, hearing the truth. That you’re afraid people will see your flaws…
But it’s these unique and universal fears and flaws that make you and your life relatable and interesting. Remember Day 4? Stop trying to be perfect!
Being a hero is not about eliminating these fears and becoming superhuman. It’s the journey of following your heart, being presented with your shadow, penetrating it, letting it destroy you, integrating it with your light, being reborn, and sharing what you discovered with the world. You transverse this cycle in the meta, macro, and micro aspects of your life.
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” ‑Jack Canfield
When you find fear, lean into it.
Do not run away, but rejoice! For you have found the doorway to another part of yourself filled with treasure. We think it’s a monster, but it’s actually the best parts of ourselves.
It’s this that we’re ultimately afraid of—our divine perfection, our beauty, our worthiness, our lovability, our sinlessness—that is so magnificent, we can’t bare to know that’s what we’ve been denying ourselves this whole time.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.” ‑Marianne Williamson
When you face fear, you align with life. When you avoid fear, you align with death.