On Day 11, we discussed honest observ­ing, and how vital it is to tell the truth about where we are and where we want to go. Most of this series has been about the past issues and how they’re getting in the way of our current results in busi­ness. As we wrap up the series, I’d like to touch upon where you want to go and what you want your life to look like.

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
“I don’t much care where –”
“Then it does­n’t matter which way you go.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland

Without a vision, we default to society’s agenda for us… and that ain’t very spec­tac­u­lar. Without a vision, our creative energy is likely to get misdi­rected and steered by our default program­ing. For most of us, that program­ming no longer serves us or the high­est good.

Without an expanded vision, our focus becomes the day-to-day minu­tia, unable to “see the forest through the trees”. We get caught up in triv­ial pursuits and distrac­tions that help us avoid the fears and feel­ings of mean­ing­less­ness. Then one day, when we’re 82, we real­ize decades of our life were spent on things that didn’t matter. That just the small­est percent of our dreams were real­ized, and our legacy remains as some­thing equally as triv­ial.

If you want to spend your time on Earth as a consumer caught up in noise and drama—that’s your right. It’s just as valid a choice as any. Yet, if you’ve made it this far in “The Process”, I have a feel­ing that’s not what you really dream about. Your call to impact the world and share your gifts tran­scends any “career path” offered by our tradi­tional soci­ety.

In order for that to be fulfilled, you’ll need to have a clear and well-defined vision for your­self and busi­ness. Why? Because what you focus on expands, and is where you’ll find your­self moving towards.

The tangi­ble demon­stra­tion of this came into perspec­tive a few years ago, when I was being taught how to ride motor­cy­cles. One of the first instruc­tions was to look where you want to go. Being on a motor­cy­cle gives you instant feed­back about where you’re look­ing, because the bike imme­di­ately wants to start moving in that direc­tion.

My first major acci­dent, on the first day of riding, was partially because I was want­ing to avoid hitting some­thing and so I kept look­ing at it. Then, you guessed it, I ran into it and dropped the bike on my foot.

A very painful lesson to learn to look where I want to go rather than where I don’t.

There was another aspect of vision I learned riding, and that was to look as far out into the bends as I could. I real­ized that my focus was only about 20 feet in front of me. I had no idea what was happen­ing 30 cars up ahead. This short-sighted focus gave me very little time to react to danger up ahead. It also put me in a more hectic state, as when you are driving fast the near things move at you faster than the things hundreds of yards ahead.

The fasci­nat­ing thing was that I was also doing this driving cars, bicy­cles, skat­ing, and even walk­ing! This strat­egy for moving forward was what I was using for every­thing. Being on the motor­cy­cle created a dynamic that just ampli­fied what I was already doing.

Not only is this a great anal­ogy, but it also trans­lates liter­ally to busi­ness, art, and life. How we do one thing is how we do anything, so the vision I have when driving is the same vision I have in my busi­ness. At the time, every­thing was day-to-day, paycheck-to-paycheck, and I had no idea where I was going to live the next month.

The most bizarre and cool part?

When I began train­ing myself to focus further down the road, hall, or sidewalk—my focus and stabil­ity in the rest of my life shifted with it. Shifting my focus in the phys­i­cal started a shift in my mind’s vision.

This is another advanced process I take clients through in my private prac­tice that reads out a lot about where a person is in their life and busi­ness. It was one of the things that shifted me from being home­less and in poverty, to living in my own three bedroom house and buying my first BMW two years later. It takes time to rewire how you move through the world, and there’s a lot more to it than I can get into here, but under­stand that our bodies and inner psyche are mirrors of each other. (If you’re inter­ested in expe­ri­enc­ing this, please contact me for private coach­ing.)

For your own process, I recom­mend writ­ing out a time­line for your­self.

Simply write down what you want your life to look like, as if it was so, at vari­ous times of the coming months, years, and decades. Like, actu­ally do it, on paper. This will show you quickly where your vision is. If you have no idea, just make it upwe make it all up anyway. And if you end up not want­ing some­thing anymore, make a new choice.

You can see the vision in the eyes of great visionaries—look at some of the old portraits. It’s as if they see years and decades out into the future. Just imag­ine how neces­sary vision like this was when cathe­drals could take 300 years to build! That’s patience. That’s vision. That’s legacy.

What is your vision? What legacy do you want to leave to the world, your chil­dren, and your name? What do you want your life, busi­ness, and the world to look like?

There’s no formula, there’s no rules. You get to make it up. That’s the magic.


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