On Day 11, we discussed honest observing, and how vital it is to tell the truth about where we are and where we want to go. Most of this series has been about the past issues and how they’re getting in the way of our current results in business. As we wrap up the series, I’d like to touch upon where you want to go and what you want your life to look like.
“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to.”
“I don’t much care where –”
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go.”
― Lewis Carroll, Alice in Wonderland
Without a vision, we default to society’s agenda for us… and that ain’t very spectacular. Without a vision, our creative energy is likely to get misdirected and steered by our default programing. For most of us, that programming no longer serves us or the highest good.
Without an expanded vision, our focus becomes the day-to-day minutia, unable to “see the forest through the trees”. We get caught up in trivial pursuits and distractions that help us avoid the fears and feelings of meaninglessness. Then one day, when we’re 82, we realize decades of our life were spent on things that didn’t matter. That just the smallest percent of our dreams were realized, and our legacy remains as something equally as trivial.
If you want to spend your time on Earth as a consumer caught up in noise and drama—that’s your right. It’s just as valid a choice as any. Yet, if you’ve made it this far in “The Process”, I have a feeling that’s not what you really dream about. Your call to impact the world and share your gifts transcends any “career path” offered by our traditional society.
In order for that to be fulfilled, you’ll need to have a clear and well-defined vision for yourself and business. Why? Because what you focus on expands, and is where you’ll find yourself moving towards.
The tangible demonstration of this came into perspective a few years ago, when I was being taught how to ride motorcycles. One of the first instructions was to look where you want to go. Being on a motorcycle gives you instant feedback about where you’re looking, because the bike immediately wants to start moving in that direction.
My first major accident, on the first day of riding, was partially because I was wanting to avoid hitting something and so I kept looking at it. Then, you guessed it, I ran into it and dropped the bike on my foot.
A very painful lesson to learn to look where I want to go rather than where I don’t.
There was another aspect of vision I learned riding, and that was to look as far out into the bends as I could. I realized that my focus was only about 20 feet in front of me. I had no idea what was happening 30 cars up ahead. This short-sighted focus gave me very little time to react to danger up ahead. It also put me in a more hectic state, as when you are driving fast the near things move at you faster than the things hundreds of yards ahead.
The fascinating thing was that I was also doing this driving cars, bicycles, skating, and even walking! This strategy for moving forward was what I was using for everything. Being on the motorcycle created a dynamic that just amplified what I was already doing.
Not only is this a great analogy, but it also translates literally to business, art, and life. How we do one thing is how we do anything, so the vision I have when driving is the same vision I have in my business. At the time, everything was day-to-day, paycheck-to-paycheck, and I had no idea where I was going to live the next month.
The most bizarre and cool part?
When I began training myself to focus further down the road, hall, or sidewalk—my focus and stability in the rest of my life shifted with it. Shifting my focus in the physical started a shift in my mind’s vision.
This is another advanced process I take clients through in my private practice that reads out a lot about where a person is in their life and business. It was one of the things that shifted me from being homeless and in poverty, to living in my own three bedroom house and buying my first BMW two years later. It takes time to rewire how you move through the world, and there’s a lot more to it than I can get into here, but understand that our bodies and inner psyche are mirrors of each other. (If you’re interested in experiencing this, please contact me for private coaching.)
For your own process, I recommend writing out a timeline for yourself.
Simply write down what you want your life to look like, as if it was so, at various times of the coming months, years, and decades. Like, actually do it, on paper. This will show you quickly where your vision is. If you have no idea, just make it up—we make it all up anyway. And if you end up not wanting something anymore, make a new choice.
You can see the vision in the eyes of great visionaries—look at some of the old portraits. It’s as if they see years and decades out into the future. Just imagine how necessary vision like this was when cathedrals could take 300 years to build! That’s patience. That’s vision. That’s legacy.
What is your vision? What legacy do you want to leave to the world, your children, and your name? What do you want your life, business, and the world to look like?
There’s no formula, there’s no rules. You get to make it up. That’s the magic.