It’s a bit ironic that the title for the series finale is called “It Never Ends”. But it’s not a coin­ci­dence. The very reason this entire thing is called “The Process” is because your trans­for­ma­tion is with­out end. Sure, there are thresh­olds and mile­stones, but you never “get there”. There’s no place to get; life happens now.

We now come full circle to Day 1. You are not broken, there is noth­ing to fix, there’s nowhere else you have to be. All the free­dom, joy, love, and abun­dance is found now. Not in 10 years when your startup goes public. Not in 200 years when your art is discov­ered and finally appre­ci­ated. It’s not last year when things were going great, and it won’t be next year when you hope to finally “make it”.

It’s now. And it never ends. If you’re look­ing for decades of work to even­tu­ally bring you peace, you’re in for a rude awak­en­ing one day—that it was avail­able to you all along.

There’s no magic point in the time­line of your life, where 30 years from now, you no longer need to heal, learn, grow, play, listen, and fail. I’ve yet to meet any “success­ful” person who doesn’t have their flaws, vices, or stories to work through. Not me, my mentors, the pres­i­dent, Tony Robbins, Oprah, Gandhi—nobody.

To think that some­day, once you destroy your shadow and ego, you’ll finally be perfect and healed—is delu­sional. Not just that it won’t happen, but in the fallacy of its premise.

That being said, there ARE choice points where you make a shift… a stop­ping that changes every­thing. The shift from attach­ment to accep­tance, from suffer­ing to joy, from poverty to abun­dance. To not only feel differ­ent, but to create real phys­i­cal results in your life.

If you’re not where you want to be, that’s okay. It takes time. Give your­self a few extra years and enjoy the ride. Have patience and find ways to lower the finan­cial, emotional, and soci­etal pres­sures. Take it one step at a time.

There was a quote up at my old Kung Fu studio that has stayed with me:

“Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.” ― Arthur Ashe

Even if you have every­thing you could possi­bly want in your career and life, we have to keep moving forward. Stagnation is death. Nature doesn’t rewind and regret, nor does it stand still and worry. It just explodes forward through evolu­tion and learns about itself as it goes. “That species didn’t work, let’s try this muta­tion. That ecosys­tem is getting out of hand, here’s some checks and balances.”

I have a grand­par­ent who is liter­ally with­er­ing away. Months with­out leav­ing the house, can’t walk with­out getting out of breath, and is always uncom­fort­able. No exer­cise, no new learn­ing, no creative hobbies, no fresh food, no social life. It is so sad seeing years of life just dissolv­ing before my eyes. I witness the effects of phys­i­cal and mental stag­na­tion in a very tangi­ble way, and it’s horri­fy­ing. It’s hard to even say this, because I have so much love for them and want the best. Of course I’ve tried to help, but it’s their choice and I have had to accept it.

I share this with raw urgency because life is about move­ment. It’s a dance, not a place in the room to sit.

If you’re wait­ing for all this work to end, you’re wait­ing for death. It’s not even work. Our bodies, mind, and spirit were made to be used.

I see so many people, includ­ing myself, say “when I have X, THEN I’ll be happy”.

It’s bull­shit.

You’re wait­ing for a future that, if it ever comes, certainly disap­points. It’s just another version of the silly scam of work­ing a soul­less job just for retire­ment that we despised in the first place. It’s putting life on hold for a fantasy when every­thing you need is right in front of you.

That kind of insan­ity is also some­thing that never ends, since you’re always need­ing that “next” thing. Like an addict. You end up getting the “thing” and wonder­ing why you still don’t feel complete. We think it’s some­thing “out there” we’re miss­ing, and by creat­ing some mega busi­ness empire, it will some­how make us whole or our lives mean­ing­ful.

This nuttery plagues so many “ultra success­ful high perform­ers”, as their drive is an avoid­ance of now—so they compul­sively move on to the next, next, next. They are out of touch with the shadow that’s really behind their moti­va­tion. It makes for a lot of money, but little true peace. With all the drugs, phar­ma­ceu­ti­cals, booze, broken fami­lies, and suicide plagu­ing execs—you’d think we’d real­ize some­thing isn’t work­ing.

I don’t know what’s best for you, only you do. But in my opin­ion, what’s the point of the sacri­fice, blood, sweat, tears, and stress mandated by entre­pre­neur­ship if we’re not enjoy­ing ourselves and expe­ri­ence love and fun along the way?

You have a choice. You can let the neuro­sis run your fantasy and expe­ri­ence a life of endless insan­ity and suffer­ing. Or, you can let spirit move you and enjoy the endless dance of life for what it is.

Stop waiting—it never ends.


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